According to the Huffington Post about 21 percent of husbands cheat and a little less than 15 percent of wives cheat. When you made those vows to love, honor and obey, those statistics weren’t in your mind, but now, months or even years later, that might have changed. Marital infidelity is something that is surprisingly common, and the question of whether you need the services of a private investigator is a difficult one.
They say that the wife or the husband is always the last to know, but when spouses who have experienced infidelity think about it, they usually knew that something was wrong, even if they didn’t know what. What are some of the signs that you should consider hiring a private investigator? These signs do not necessarily mean that your spouse is having an affair, but there is a better than average chance that they are hiding something from you.
Changes in Routine
Is your spouse coming home when you don’t expect them to? Are they missing when you expect them to be somewhere? There may be innocent explanations behind these discrepancies, but a routine exists for a reason. When there is a change in a routine, there is always a cause for it. Be aware of what your spouse is doing. If there is a change in the rhythm of your life together, it is a good idea to find out what is happening.
Elaborate Explanations
It might not be unusual for your spouse to be late getting home from work, but the detailed explanation of why they were late might be new. We talked with Global International Security Services who explained, “When people are trying to hide something, they usually come up with elaborate stories to excuse themselves. What they might not know is that offering too much information is just as damning as offering too little.” If that recounting of a traffic jam and a wrong order at the takeout place sounds a little forced, listen to your intuition.
Mood Swings
A spouse who was relatively even-keeled might start expressing a great deal more emotion than they have before. Depending on the spouse and what they are doing, these mood swings will vary intensely in content. A cheating spouse might be extremely sweet and loving, or they may become very sullen and resentful. A mood swing is an unusual thing, and if you notice that your spouse has been more than a little unpredictable lately, it might be time to start investigating.
Increased Security
The Huffington Post states that suddenly realizing that you have lost access to parts of your spouse’s online presence is a bad sign. When people trust one another, there is usually a relaxation of security measures. People leave themselves logged on, and accounts stay up and are simply respected. If you are suddenly seeing a lot more password screens, take that seriously.
Aggression
If you are getting suspicious about your spouse having an affair, one serious sign to consider is increased aggression. Is your spouse getting more defensive? Do they suddenly explode without any seeming provocation, or do they take a great deal of offense at the things that you say? Some spouses hide their tracks this way. Later on, they can claim that you were always fighting and that the relationship was in trouble. This kind of baiting is nasty, and if your spouse is inclined towards violence, it is dangerous.
Mentioning a Specific Name More
Who is your spouse talking about? If they are mentioning a specific name more often, even if it is in a negative context, pay attention. People have notoriously one-track minds, and oftentimes, what a person is thinking about will come right out of their mouth. They may disguise it with a casual remark, but they were thinking of that person for a reason.
Take a moment to consider your options. If you and your spouse have been having problems or even if a few of these signs sound unnervingly familiar, take a moment to consider what a private investigator might find out.
